All breakdowns happen over time.
The parties involved are usually incognizant of the start or trigger of the breakdown.
Maybe some do, they just didn’t want to admit it.
After all, to admit you’ve been making a mistake for as long as you have, can be a rather intimidating thought.
And so, we amble along with our mistakes until it reaches the breaking point.
And then we ask ourselves what went wrong, when did it begin, why didn’t we see it coming.
Seconds, minutes, hours, days, nights, weeks, months and years.
We start looking back for clues to what happened.
It becomes an all consuming obsession; we cry, we blame – ourselves and them.
We exhaust ourselves emotionally and physically seeking the origin of the breakdown so as to avoid it in the future.
We are creatures of habits.
Once we have the origins, the cause – and we realize it’s consequences, will we, do we really learn and avoid making that same mistake again?
Their breakdown began just as everyone else’s.
Quietly and slowly.
It began quite unconsciously really.
It started innocently enough – taking up only a small portion of their lives and time.
Eventually, it got bigger and bigger.
The lies came out and then the messages and emails.
He tried to explain them away, she tried to believe; and then she stopped.
It was the same story over and over again.